Birmingham Divorce Update: Steps Toward an Alabama Divorce -- Part Two

Divorce can be a painful and life-altering event for most married people, especially if children are involved. In my last entry, I discussed a few of the initial steps when moving toward divorce in Alabama. For most individuals, going through a legal separation or divorce can be a very emotional time.

As a divorce lawyer with a Birmingham family law practice, I recommend that people in the throes of divorce attempt to avoid emotionality as much as possible. Though it is difficult, keeping a cool head is highly desirable when going through such a serious legal process as divorce. The following is the second part of my discussion on the process of divorcing in Alabama.

One of the initial steps in kicking off the formal divorce procedure is the creation of a complaint (or petition) requesting a divorce, which is filed by one or the other spouse. Once the petition is filed, the other spouse must file an answer in kind -- this is that spouse’s “response.” The petition usually includes items such as requests for temporary orders regarding custody of the couple’s children (if any) and visitation, alimony and, or in addition to, child support payments. It is not uncommon that the petitioning spouse will request the other to pay his or her lawyer costs.

Following the petition, the next step is for your attorney to undertake legal discovery. Just as in any law suit, this is done to obtain information pertinent to the divorce. This information will help determine the amount of spousal and/or child support, as well as attorney fees that you may be required to pay -- or the amount that you will receive.

Depending on your particular circumstances, retaining the services of a forensic accountant can be very helpful when searching for your spouse’s potentially hidden assets. This kind of accountant can also assist in analyzing your overall debts and assets. Others professionals involved in this process may include CPAs, appraiser and tax advisors, who can help you become aware of the tax implications and other potential risks of hanging onto or giving up property.

Prior to the commencement of settlement negotiations, it is wise to know what items you want the agreement to cover. Being able to understand the various tax consequences or other financial issues tied to each offer and counteroffer made during the negotiations is critical to a successful outcome. This is why having a qualified divorce lawyer on your side during these negotiations makes a great deal of sense.

As an unemotional advocate, an attorney can make the entire process much easier. As I have said before, keeping any possible anger out of the negotiations may help you avoid the possibility of a trial. Since divorce trials can be rather expensive for both of the spouses, this is something you should steer clear of if at all possible.

When the negotiation stage is completed, a settlement agreement will be drawn up to reflect the terms that were mutually settled upon. If, on the other hand, the negotiations break down for some reason, the divorce proceeding will head to trial, in which a judge will decide how to divvy up your assets, as well as determine which spouse will get custody of the children (if any). During the trial, the judge will also decide how much child support and/or alimony will be paid.

Regardless of how the final divorce settlement is arrived at, either through cooperative negotiation or by trial, when all is said and done a final divorce decree will be created based on the complete terms of the settlement agreement.

Alabama Divorce News: Tiger Woods' Wife Rumored to be Talking to Divorce Attorney

In the recent maelstrom of mistress allegations, Tiger Woods may be headed to divorce court if the gossip pages are correct. As a Birmingham divorce and family law attorney, I have first-hand experience with divorce and separation cases involving infidelity in a marriage. While Mr. Woods’ situation is perhaps more extreme than most, the result -- a wife deciding to consult a divorce lawyer -- is nothing new in my profession.

Revelations of a single or as in this case multiple affairs can quickly push a marriage toward divorce or, at best, legal separation. Sports figures, entertainers and other personalities can sometimes be more prone to marital troubles than the rest of us, it’s a big let down to those who revere these high-profile names.

In this case, according to various news reports, Elin Nordegren is planning to divorce the fallen golf icon. That piece of information came from a source, who recently spoke to People magazine, adding that Nordegren has “made up her mind." More damning is the reports from the New York Daily News, which reported that the 29-year-old Nordegren and husband Tiger would be “going their separate ways for the holidays.”

The article says that the former model will be heading to Sweden with the couple’s two children, while Woods will be staying home. According to reports, the golfer is looking for a “safe harbor” and waiting for the storm to settle. He reportedly will be spending the holidays with two or three of his male friends.

Reports also state that a friend of Woods claims the golf great had likely cheated on Nordegren with more than the dozen or so women who have already emerged since Thanksgiving. The latest news reports allege that Woods wired thousands of dollars every month to several women, with one receiving up to $20,000 a month, according to MSNBC.

 

Tiger Woods' wife Elin Nordegren ready for divorce: report, NYDailyNews.com, December 16, 2009

 

Marriage in Birmingham, Alabama: Before and After Divorce

Marriage is a sacred institution which sometimes becomes a trial for those ill-suited to the needs of another, or the sacrifices which a marital partnership requires. As a Birmingham divorce lawyer and family law attorney, I have helped many couples through their individual rough patches. Unfortunately, even the best of counseling cannot hold together a relationship that has fallen apart. That is when legal separation or actual divorce become the only alternative, sad to say.

To begin, in Alabama a valid marriage is marked by a number of conditions. Each of these, and as a group, helps to define what is or is not a legal marriage in the state of Alabama. They include the following:

  • Nobody under 14 years of age has the capacity to contract marriage
  • For all persons under the age of 18, the consent of a parent or guardian is absolutely required
  • Both parties to the marriage must be of sound mind
  • Each must be able to contract marriage, and
  • The parties cannot be related, at least within a prohibited degree as defined by the state

The Alabama Marriage Protection Act, which was made into law in 1998, specifies that marriage is an inherently unique relationship between a man and a women. A marriage contracted between individuals of the same sex is invalid in Alabama. ALA. CODE 30-1-19(b) (1975). Furthermore, the act also holds that the State of Alabama shall not recognize the marriage of parties of the same sex from other states.

Finally, a marriage cannot exist without the mutual consent of both parties. Since consent is lacking if a previous marriage existed, or when consent is procured by duress, a marriage is not valid when obtained under either circumstance. This is when my work as a divorce lawyer must inevietably come into play. Divorce legally separates and divides a family's assets, and in some cases it actually divides the family. But this is a discussion for another time.

Divorce Procedure & Jurisdictional Issues in Montgomery, Alabama

A client called my office today seeking advice regarding a default judgment he received in Montgomery, Alabama divorce proceedings.  My client(Mr. X), received a default divorce judgment in Montgomery County after failing to respond to a divorce complaint within the required 30 day time period.  When you receive an Alabama divorce complaint, you only have thirty days to respond.  If you do not respond, a default judgment will be rendered against you.  This basically means that the pleadings in the divorce complaint are taken as true, and most times, the petitioner will get everything they seek in the divorce.  Thus, it is very important, if you wish contest any portion of the divorce complaint, that you respond within the time period allotted.

Fortunately, Mr X has recourse.  An intelligent Alabama Divorce Lawyer looks for any way he might be able to challenge the default judgment.  In this case, Mr. X did not receive notice of the divorce proceedings, and he has jurisdictional challenges as well.  Mr. X and his soon to be ex-wife, are military personnel and move around a lot.  Mr. X's ex, moved to Montgomery, Alabama from Indiana just two months after Mr. X filed for a divorce in Indiana.  Sneaky Mrs. X then filed for an Alabama divorce in Montgomery County after coming to Alabama and while the Indiana proceedings were underway.  Thus, an Alabama divorce court does not have jurisdiction over the divorce, and Mr. X can have the default judgment set aside on jurisdictional grounds.  Basically, the Alabama domestic relations or family law court, did not have the power to enter a judgment in this case.

Mr. X can also challenge the Alabama divorce judgment on grounds he did not receive notice of the divorce.  Every Alabama divorce petitioner must give notice of the divorce proceedings to the party they are trying to divorce.  If the divorce petitioner(the one who files the Alabama divorce complaint) does not give notice of the proceedings to the one they are trying to divorce, any divorce proceeding is invalid, and can be set aside. 

Affordable Alabama Divorce Lawyer

My Alabama divorce law practice is focused upon making Alabama divorce as simple, and as affordable as possible.  Too many Alabama divorce lawyers seem to think that charging high fees makes them important.  My firm is different.  No matter where you are located, whether you live in Birmingham, Huntsville, Montgomery, Mobile, Tuscaloosa, Cullman, Fultondale, Hueytown, Gardendale, Bessemer, Decatur, Guntersville, Scottsboro, Hoover, Pelham, Trussville, Moody, Leeds, Pell City, Homewood, Vestavia Hills, Mountain Brook,  or whether you live in Jefferson County, Madison County, Montgomery County, Walker County, or Mobile County; my firm believes in providing the very best divorce and family law service at reasonable and affordable prices.  We offer several means of payment to make it easier to obtain high quality divorce and family law legal representation.  On top of our already competitive pricing, we accept major credit cards and will even work out payment plans.  Our goal is to be the best and most affordable divorce and family law lawyers and attorneys in Alabama.  If  you can find higher quality Alabama divorce or family law legal representation, at more affordable prices, you should hire them. 

Birmingham, Alabama Divorce Lawyer and Attorney

I am a Birmingham, Alabama divorce and family law attorney who represents clients in Jefferson County, Shelby County, Madison County, and throughout the state of Alabama in places like Vestavia Hills, Trussville, Mountain Brook, Hoover, Irondale, Homewood, Gardendale, Fultondale, Hueytown, Moody, Leeds, Pelham, Tuscaloosa, Huntsville, Montgomery, and Mobile.  My practice focuses on helping families with divorce and family law, child custody, visitation, adoption, alimony, child support, prenuptial agreements, divorce child psychology, divorce mediation and collaborative law. 

We work tirelessly to help your family make it through difficult times, and we are here 24/7 for our clients.  Just today, a client seeking a divorce from Birmingham, Alabama called me at 11:30 p.m. to mostly weep and vent about her husband's divorce tactics.  I listened patiently and tried my best to be more than her lawyer.  I want my firm to be a comfort during your most troubling times.  I believe that to be a good lawyer you have to be a good listener.  Sometimes that means taking the extra time with each client.  It can also mean not taking as many clients as you might otherwise.  I limit the number of cases I take at any one time in order to devote more of my time to you personally.  It may not be the best business strategy, but it is how I would want to be treated in similar circumstances, and I believe that giving a little more of yourself will not only help my clients, but in the long run, it will make me a better person, and make people speak well of me at my funeral.  I also try very hard to make quality divorce and family law representation affordable. 

Temporary Spousal Support During Alabama Divorce Proceedings

I received a call from a client today in Birmingham, Alabama.  I realized people contemplating divorce across Jefferson County, including Vestavia, Mountain Brook, Homewood, Leeds, Bessemer, Hoover, Pelham, Trussville, Gardendale, Fultondale, Fairfield, Moody, Pleasant Grove, Adamsville and Hueytown, as well as all across Alabama in places like Huntsville, Montgomery, Tuscaloosa and Mobile, are all concerned about Alabama divorce laws. 

One of the most frequent questions I encounter about Alabama divorce laws, in Birmingham and all across the State of Alabama, and especially from women,  is "How do I support myself during the divorce?"  The answer is simple.  I will file a motion for Pendente Lite.  That motion will provide temporary support from your husband while you are going through a divorce.  This kind of support is very similar to alimony.  It allows you to continue living as you currently are while the Alabama divorce proceedings are under way.  Once the divorce is finalized you will then be eligible for alimony.  Alimony is intended to keep you relatively in the same economic position you are in during the marriage.  In that way, alimony and temporary support are very similar.  Both provide you with a means to continue your way of life for a period of time.  Motions for Pendente Lite only covers support during the divorce proceedings itself.  So, your husband or wife can't just kick you out of the house, cut off your credit cards, take the car, etc.

The Alabama Code Section 30-2-50 allows for this kind of temporary support pending the divorce action.  It provides for the allowance for support during the pendency of action.

Helping Children Cope With Divorce

Not surprisingly, a divorce has significant consequences for children.  This site is devoted to helping parents deal with the ramifications of divorce.  It is not an option to, "stay together for the kids."  This kind of thinking only ends up hurting your children in the long run.  But we can do everything in our power to lessen the traumatic impact a divorce has on our kids.  Although many children go through their parents divorce with relatively few negative or permanent side effects, a divorce can be devastating for some children.  The changes in living arrangements, less time with one parent, etc, can be a harsh experience for some.  Based upon my experience, the best thing a parent can do to limit the negative impact a divorce has on their children is to act civilly towards your ex.  Some good rules of thumb are as follows:

  • Do not argue in front of your kids in person or on the phone
  • Actively pursue an amicable relationship with your ex
  • Try not to bad mouth your ex in front of the kids
  • Find support for you and your children
  • Try to maintain your child's regular routine

 

Divorce News

 Big divorce news in Atlanta.  Evangelist Juanita Bynum has had enough.  She filed papers seeking a divorce from her husband, Bishop Thomas W. Weeks III this past Monday, September 10, 2007.  According to the Atlanta Journal Constitution, divorce papers accuse the Bishop of "beating, stomping and choking" his wife.  It is sad commentary on our times, that a supposed man of God, is being accused of domestic violence.  True or not, this kind of press is bad for the truly religious. If true, it is just another example of a con artist taking money in the guise of religion.  No true man of God(or any real-man for that matter) would ever put a hand to his wife.  That being said, it is not uncommon in divorce or child custody cases for one party, normally the wife, to accuse their spouse of some kind of domestic violence.  Accusing your spouse of domestic or child abuse can be an unscrupulous means to gain the advantage during divorce or custody proceedings. 

 

 

Alabama Divorce Support

DivorceSupport.com is a fantastic resource for people facing divorce.  The website has excellent Alabama divorce specific information.  They have articles on Alabama divorce, child support and child custody, residency requirements, grandparents rights and military divorce laws.  When you are going through a divorce you need as much information and support available.  My firm tries to provide you with the resources to make this process as simple as possible .  We also strive to give you all the information you need during these troubling times.  Knowing how the divorce or child custody process works will give you a certain amount of comfort.  I encourage my clients to learn as much as they can about their divorce and related issues.  The Internet is an amazing resource and should be used accordingly.

Difference Between Mediation & The Collaborative Process

The differences between mediation and collaborative law can be relatively minor.  Both mediation and collaborative law are alternative dispute resolution techniques that resolve a divorce without involving a court. Here is a link from divorcenet.com detailing the differences, advantages and disadvantages to both.  There is also some good information to aid in determining whether or not you would be a good candidate for the collaborative process.

Divorce & Joint-Custody in Alabama

Joint Custody is preferred and deemed to be in the best interest of the child.  Alabama Code section 30-3-150 makes it state policy to encourage joint custody whenever both parents "have shown the ability to act in the best interests of their children." The court must consider joint custody, but is free to grant custody in any form it determines is in the best interest of the child.  The court looks to several factors when deciding to award joint custody: 

  • The court looks at the parents wishes regarding joint custody
  • The parents willingness and ability to work together and make decision in the best interest of the child
  • Ability of each parent to foster the child's love for their ex
  • Potential for any kind of abuse or kidnapping
  • Distance between parents and practical geographic implications of joint custody
  • The court may order a form of joint custody without the consent of both parents, when it is in the best interest of the child.

****When both parents request joint custody, joint custody is presumed to be in the best alternative.  Thus, in Alabama, joint custody is required unless the court makes specific findings as to why it is not.  Check out this helpful guide listing some Alabama Divorce and Custody code sections ,as well as other valuable divorce and child custody resources. 

Alabama Alimony Payments: The Basics

The purpose of Alimony in Alabama is to preserve, as much as is possible, the economic living condition of the parties as they existed during the marriage. There is a duty to maintain the status of their ex-spouse until such time as the spouse is self-supporting or maintaining a similar status to the one enjoyed before the separation.

The two most important factors to be considered in determining alimony payments are:

  1. The need of the spouse receiving alimony.
  2. The ability to pay by the spouse paying alimony.

However, there is a laundry list of factors that courts do take into consideration:

  • Standard of living during the marriage
  • Age and gender of each party
  • Length of the Marriage
  • Bad conduct by a party that caused the divorce(adultery)
  • Health of each party
  • Potential for maintaining their standard of living without spouse

Alimony can result from long and short term marriages as well.

 

Alabama Divorce Venue: Where to File?

The Alabama "venue statute," sets out the proper county to file your Alabama divorce actions.  Venue is just a fancy lawyer word for the place you file divorce papers. The Code provides several methods to establish proper venue.  Proper venue can be established in one of three ways:

  1. You may file your divorce papers in the county where your spouse resides.
  2. In the county where you resided with your spouse at the time of separation.
  3. Or, if your spouse is a non-resident, the county in which he/she resides.

When both parties are residents of Alabama, divorce complaints can be filed in either the county in which your spouse resides, or in the county where you both lived before the separation occurred. It is also possible to file in any county you want, if your spouse agrees. 

Alabama Child Support

A child has a basic right to receive support.  The parents obligation to provide such support cannot be removed except by a termination of parental rights, i.e. adoption.  The rules governing child support in Alabama can be found in the Alabama Child Support Guidelines, Alabama Rules of Judicial Administration, Rule 32.

The calculation of the support figure from the guidelines above is deemed correct unless shown otherwise.  The guidelines are not intended to be carved in stone. They are "guidelines" only. They are meant as a map to assist parties, lawyers, and judges in making more consistent awards of child support.